Calm isn’t a gift – it’s a skill. And in pregnancy and postpartum, that skill can feel harder to reach than ever.

If you’re lying awake with “what if” thoughts, spiraling before appointments, feeling ashamed of intrusive thoughts, overwhelmed by visitors, anxious about feeding, or terrified you won’t cope with the next night – you’re not alone. Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do: protect what you love. The problem is the alarm gets loud.

Calm Mama is a warm, practical guide for pregnant people and new mothers who want real tools – not perfect-mom pressure. Blending evidence-based CBT, nervous-system regulation, and mindfulness, Dr. Lila Hart teaches you how to steady your body, quiet spirals, and handle the most common pregnancy/postpartum triggers with clear scripts and step-by-step protocols.

Inside you’ll learn how to:

• Tell the difference between normal worries and anxiety (and what to do next)
• Calm spikes safely in pregnancy and postpartum without forcing yourself to “just relax”
• Handle birth fears, medical triggers, NICU stress, and pediatric appointments with steadier tools
• Reduce intrusive-thought shame and respond with compassion and support
• Set boundaries with family and visitors – without the guilt hangover
• Navigate feeding anxiety and baby sleep without falling into 2 a.m. spirals
• Protect your relationship and share the load in a high-demand season
• Follow a clear, gentle 30-Day Reset that builds steadiness through small daily reps

This book is inclusive, trauma-informed, and safety-forward. It won’t debate your choices. It will help you build a calmer rhythm – with support, scripts, and skills that work on real days.

Important note: This book is for education and emotional support and does not replace medical care. If you’re experiencing persistent anxiety or low mood, panic, distressing intrusive thoughts, difficulty sleeping/eating, or thoughts of self-harm, please contact a healthcare professional promptly. If you feel unable to stay safe, seek urgent help immediately.

You don’t need to power through.
You can build steadiness – one breath, one boundary, one next step at a time.