Nobody died. You still lost someone. It was you.

The person you were before the diagnosis, the divorce, the redundancy, the caregiving years does not exist anymore. Everyone around you is focused on the practical fallout, and nobody thinks to say that the hardest part is being a stranger to yourself.

This book treats identity loss as real grief, because it is. It maps what happens when the roles that told you who you were fall away at once, and why you can be functioning perfectly well and still feel profoundly lost. You are not failing to move on. You are grieving someone the world never acknowledged was gone.

Grieving the Self You Used to Be is Book Three of The Grief You Don’t Talk About.

For readers who do not know who they are anymore and have never heard that called grief.